Will you be mine?

Whether you've been together ten days or ten years Valentine's day is too frequently a huge pull on all your creativity and your resources. The stress created in the name of love is unbelievable! And no matter where you look, everything is the same. The perfect gift can seem so elusive.

But fortunately, celebrating your love can not be done simply by giving a present. The thought behind the gift is just as important, if not more. I know, pressure! But don't worry, here are a few suggestions that are sure to get you going in the right direction.

Listen to your significant other. They may be dropping hints about what they really want; all you have to do is be listening. For example, he or she may like the cologne or perfume but the tickets to the game or concert are perfect. So, stay off the promotional isle and put some thought into it.

For some of us chocolate is a must. And in this case the cliched gift is okay, just do not buy the cheap ones at the drugstore. But even better, go for something special.. Personally, there is no better choice than a Sprinkles cupcake. Find your sprinkles; visit a chocolatier.

If the traditional choice of jewelry is in the cards, then make it romantic and sweet. One of the best ways to do this is with an engraving. Maybe a pet name or an inside joke that makes you both smile. The point here is to be sincere and memorable.

This one may be touchy, but lingerie does not have to be just sexy. It can be comfortable, too. Men and women alike should consider what it is like to wear the garment... then choose. This doesn't mean that sex appeal is out, just follow the golden rule. Hint: cottons are good.

If you have been together a little longer it may be time for a makeover. Not you; the bedroom. Perhaps a new set of sheets, the more luxurious the better, or some fresh flowers with an intoxicating aroma. Your imagination is the limit here.

Regardless of what you choose be thoughtful and imaginative, plan ahead, and go with you instincts. As long as you use your partner as a gauge, not mass marketing, you will do just fine. After all, the best gifts are the ones that keep you thinking of the one who gave them to you.